We went to an excellent conference last weekend in Nashville, TN, with Larry Randolph, Graham Cooke and Don Potter. It was life-changing. Graham said he was coming to give us a lens change so that when we left we would see things differently. It happened.
I have posted this YouTube video of Graham Cooke from another conference which has some of the message that was so lens-changing for me. I highly recommend you watch it with an open mind and heart. You, too, may have a lens change.
Here is another link to a YouTube video that includes parts of another excellent talk Graham gave on "favor" at the conference: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XXVEE-9SlUA.