Have you ever taken the Myers Briggs personality test? Country Guy & I took it a couple of times probably 30 or more years ago. If you aren't familiar with the test, answers to questions are sorted into 4 categories: Introverted(I)/Extroverted(E), Sensing(S)/Intuitive(N), Thinking(T)/Feeling(F) and Judging(J)/Perceptive(P) and then combined into 16 combinations of these categories.
My results indicated I was an INFJ. Country Guy was an ISTP. Once I realized we only had the "I" in common I began to understand many of our conflicts. It was really an eye-opener for me! I had thought we were very much alike but it became apparent we had the same values but went about making decisions in entirely different ways. Before the test I had thought the things I found irritating about him were choices he was making--probably to irritate me. :o) He wouldn't make a decision until it absolutely had to be made. I, on the other hand, wanted it made immediately so I could begin making plans. The test revealed those characteristics were part of our personality and the way we processed things. I was a J. One of the descriptions of a J is that they like decisions to be made and consider a bad decision is better than no decision at all. Country Guy was a P. P's are described as wanting to keep their options open. Once I saw this I began realizing how good it was (even though frustrating) that we looked at things from different perspectives. There was much more balance in our relationship than there could have been if we saw things exactly the same.
I was discussing this test with our granddaughter last week so I decided to see if there was a free test online to help her discover a little more about herself. I found one at 16personalities.com. Once you get the results of your test some excellent information is included about each personality. It is amazing to me how someone figured this out in such an accurate way that I feel understood and understand myself better as I read the description of my personality. I took the test again once our granddaughter had taken it to see if my personality had changed over the years. (Is that possible? I don't know.) It hadn't.
If you are curious and decide to take the test I would love to hear the results or insights you receive from taking it. It is so fascinating to me--but then that curiosity is part of my personality! I love it!